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Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here. Bored Panda Woman Crochets A Blanket For 900 Hours As A Gift For Friend’ s Son He Gives it Back To Her The Internet Is Divided Home Partnership Advertise Success stories Jobs About us Contact 114points 3.7K Needle and Thread, People1 week ago
Austėja Akavickaitė
We all know it feels better to give than receive. But sometimes, gift-giving can be a blessing and a curse all at the same time.
Woman Crochets A Blanket For 900 Hours As A Gift For Friend’ s Son He Gives it Back To Her The Internet Is Divided
Ieva Gailiūtė andAustėja Akavickaitė
We all know it feels better to give than receive. But sometimes, gift-giving can be a blessing and a curse all at the same time.
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It brings us great joy to please someone with a lovely surprise, especially when we create that specific item with our own two hands. But equally, it can cause a lot of stress and pressure to find just the right thing the receiver wants and needs.
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Still, we clearly anticipate a delighted response to our efforts. And then feel deeply disappointed when we get anything but. So when Twitter user Danielle Candela recently shared how her friend's son rejected his 21st birthday gift - a crocheted blanket that took her over 900 hours and $120 to craft - the story immediately split the internet.
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The 68-year-old woman still working full-time felt hurt seeing her work taken for granted, but people online seemed to have mixed opinions. Read on to learn more about the incident and the reactions it received from readers. Then be sure to decide where you land on the matter and weigh in on the discussion in the comments!
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After her friend s son rejected a crochet gift blanket she made this 68-year-old woman turned to Twitter to share her disappointment
Image credits: DanielleCandela Image credits: DanielleCandela Image credits: DanielleCandela Candela's post caused quite a stir on Twitter with people jumping at the chance to share their opinions. Many people expressed support for the woman and felt deeply appalled by how her friend's son handled the situation. Some readers offered kind words and even chimed in with their own experiences.
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And others said there's always a risk that a person will reject the gift if you don't ask about their preferences beforehand. And if the recipient is not a fan of crochet blankets, it simply won't work for them. Surprisingly, this thread gained so much attention that it spread to other platforms, too.
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It was picked up by a member of the 'Crochet' subreddit, stuckwitharmor, who shared the woman's story with the community. "Personally, I think if you make a gift, you make it with your own time, effort and motivation," the user wrote. "The receiver is not obliged to love it just because you spent a long time and a lot of effort on it."
Her post sparked a heated discussion about gift-giving online where the vast majority of commenters were appalled by the young man s entitlement
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But it can also drive them apart. So what exactly makes it such a tricky matter of business?
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Whether it's having doubts about what to get, not knowing the person well, or coming from completely different backgrounds - thinking of something special to give a particular person can often feel like navigating a minefield, to begin with. And let's not forget about the financial burden.
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Understandably, gifts are all about the thought, not the dollar amount. But as it turns out, people are so eager to celebrate birthdays and other celebrations that they're ready to spend lavishly - and even go into debt. A survey by online loan marketplace LendingTree questioned more than 1,000 US consumers about their spending on gifts.
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It found that 45% of participants admitted to paying more than they can afford because they wanted to impress the recipient. In fact, the survey revealed that spending on birthday gifts was the highest, and it even surpassed milestones like weddings and graduations. Over half of consumers felt pressured to buy a birthday gift at some point.
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Another 39% reported typically paying between $100 and $499 for gifts for others' celebrations in a year, while 18% said they tend to spend between $500 and $999.
Fellow knitters and crocheters also chimed in with similar experiences
Image credits: walkerdld Image credits: AnnBieb Image credits: badcatscrochet Image credits: VABVOX Image credits: darcwood Image credits: mountainviews Image credits: MicheleASheldo1 Image credits: DuGrigore As you've noticed from Candela's story and the support it received from the internet, seeing your gift getting rejected is upsetting. And this is especially true when the giver has spent a fair amount of time, money, and energy procuring it.
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But according to a blog post on Beezzly, etiquette rules agree on how to handle these situations. See, there is only one thing you can do when someone says "no, thank you" - to accept the return.
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You should do it calmly, without confrontation, and without any argument. Naturally, your emotions may rise, but speaking in a gentle tone can go a long way. You may also ask the reason they are giving the item back, and if it all falls down to misunderstanding, you can try to ask them to reconsider it.
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But if the person is still refusing, that should be the end. "There is no sense to push the person further.
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Just stay calm, say OK and move on. Think of the process of gift giving as something that is not about you or me, but as something that is about them."
Other readers shared positive stories about how people were grateful to accept gifts
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Galak explained to Bored Panda that givers mainly focus on the moment of gift exchange, whereas recipients primarily think about how valuable the object will be once owned. So when it comes to choosing unfit gifts for others, the professor said that mistakes usually occur because givers don't ask recipients what they want.
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"There's an odd cultural taboo that exists which makes people uncomfortable asking someone what kind of gift they want. But that taboo is entirely inappropriate."
"Gift recipients know what they want and they are eager to tell gift-givers.
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There is nothing wrong with sharing that information and there's nothing wrong with asking for it," Galak added. According to the professor, even though we believe our efforts are well thought-out, an unwanted gift can cause tension between the two people. "If a giver gives a gift that isn't well received, there is a chance that the relationship will be strained.
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Gifts act as a social lubricant that signals care for another person… but that is undermined when the gift is bad."
Of course, there is one way to avoid finding ourselves in these kinds of situations. "Just ask! The easiest way to give a good gift is to ask someone what they want.
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People appreciate the fact that they are being asked as that signals that the giver really wants to give something that is well-liked," he explained. Ultimately, it all comes down to communication.
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Everyone has a different relationship with the birthday star, and each situation is different, but it's important to talk over the situation and determine what works best for you. We'd love to hear your opinions on the matter down below. Do you think people should accept gifts no matter what?
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Or is it appropriate to stand your ground and reject it if you're not a fan? Feel free to share your thoughts below in the comments!
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And some users said the receiver is not obliged to love the present and called out the woman for forcing her craft on people
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Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Share on Facebook Ieva Gailiūtė Ieva Gailiūtė Writer, BoredPanda staff Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University.
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After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee.
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By all means you do not have to like a gift, but you smile, say thank you and then stick it in a drawer or cupboard until you have a clear out. To say that she was trying to manipulate people or that they were right to rudely reject it to make a point that she was wrong to give them that gift just come accross as awful, entitled people who have no regard for other people's feelings 93 93points reply susan turer susan turer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Exactly, the blanket was not the only gift she gave him.
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So if he didn't like it just say thank you for gifts and give the one you do not like away. There is no reason to return a gift you do not like, just pass it on to a charity or something.
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My issue with many of the responses is that manners and kindness should not be forgotten and all right to give up on if you did not ask for or want something. It takes so little time to show and say thank you (especially to a friend or family member), then you are free to do as you will with the gifts. 22 22points reply Load More Replies...
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Margaret Beier Margaret Beier Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 days ago The $120 was the cost of yarn, etc. , not a gift.
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-2 -2points reply Tayzia Covet Tayzia Covet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 days ago But she stared that she gave him $121 cash in addition to the blanket 3 3points reply Jeannette Peterson Jeannette Peterson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I was taught growing up that a thing made by hand was more meaningful than buying something from the store. I also crochet and don't as a rule ask someone if they want a blanket or scarf or whatever other craft I make. I try to make something special and I believe that is all this woman was trying to do too.
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I made a crochet quilt for my parents with a big white square in the middle and two antique crocheted cars (a model T and a stage coach) which was going to be put in a frame with velvet behind it so everyone could see it. That never happened. They wouldn't use the blanket cuz they had dogs and didn't want hair to get into the yarn.
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It was put in a closet and forgot about. My sister makes blankets she has the sewing machine make pictures.
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I just went to see my parents before my dad passed away. My mother brought out all the blankets my sister made.
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I asked to see the crochet blanket that cost me over $200 to make and send. That hurt. My mom says I never make anything for her.
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Whatev 14 14points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Exactly. I blame parents these days for being lazy pieces of s**t who stick their kids on computers and phones instead of teaching them manners and respect. 13 13points reply CatWoman312 CatWoman312 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I see what you’re saying and I do find the comment about it not being designer very rude, but the question I have is did he even want a blanket?
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I feel there needs to be more context because just deciding to make someone a blanket isn’t a good idea unless they specifically ask for one . 10 10points reply Ari Keeper Ari Keeper Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago But who can't use a nice warm blanket? It's not like it was some weird niche thing, like a painted Warhammer figurine 20 20points reply Vicki Carlisle Vicki Carlisle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago It's a gift!
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You don't get to choose your gifts, unless you keep a running registry. Good grief.....manners are sure in short supply these days. Neither he nor his mother seemed to care about how their actions and words would affect this person, who cared enough to make this blanket for him.
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A simple "thank you" would have been enough and store it away, give it away or whatever; just don't hurt someone.....wow! 3 3points reply Lee Sanyos Lee Sanyos Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago Hey Catwoman312, I too had some concerns and questions.
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I used to crochet and made blankets for people who wanted them. People who think that everyone can use a blanket, is just foolish.
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I don't need one in FL, did not need one in Denver or AZ when we lived there. Also, 900 hrs is like 6 months; so was the blanket the size of a house?
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Something is a bit hinckey. While the mother could have taken it, the woman at some point would have followed up on how he liked it, where is it, etc. Now, we have her continuing a lie; not a good situation.
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Maybe, she could have asked what would have been a good gift and one within her budget. 0 0points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago If I feel that somebody's gift is wasted on me, I would give it back out of respect.
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I won't put somebody's effort/money in a cuboard to get rid off later, that's wastefull 5 5points reply Squirrelly Panda Squirrelly Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Wasteful if you throw it away. And hurtful if you return it. So thank the giver for thinking of you and how thoughtful they were for putting such effort in, then, some point in the future, give it to someone who will really appreciate it, in the case of the blanket, a homeless or women's shelter if no where else.
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23 23points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I never said anything about throwing away, but getting rid off. And passing item of high value to a homeless person because it's no use to you?
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I would be so much more hurt if somebody would give away something that I worked on for 900h to anybody. 3 3points reply love u love u Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago the homeless would eagerly accept that gift, theyre humans and have feelings also.
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10 10points reply DD62422 DD62422 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago And most homeless would leave an afghan blanket behind when they move on before it's bulky and difficult to carry. 2 2points reply Kat Min Kat Min Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Noone says you have to throw it away. You can give it to someone who wants it.
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Don't give back presents (unless you now the person inside out and knwo they won't mind) It's incredibly rude. 14 14points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I do prefer honesty and trust. Besides, if I give something that reciver won't like, and they return it to me, I can get a refund.
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Also important information what that person likes and dislikes. Communication is the key for me.
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And I consider lies much more rude, than a bit of awkwardness -1 -1point reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes me too. Wouldn't mind. The other guy is so happy with it.
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Why give it to someone who doesn't care about it? 3 3points reply Gail Steltenpohl Gail Steltenpohl Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago How about appreciating the makers efforts, then keep In cupboard . You can donate later to the homeless, fire victims, vets.
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Or Disabled. Giving a gift back isn’t respect 7 7points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Maybe. But honesty is.
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0 0points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago You're an a*****e ezPZ. 2 2points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Please, could you elaborate?
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2 2points reply Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm just going to put this scenario out there: let's say you're an atheist, you sneeze, someone says "bless you." Do you get offended? If so, do you tell the person or do you just swallow it and accept the gesture as a token of well-meaning care and concern?
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Or, do you use honesty as a way to be a thinly veiled a*****e? Being honest is a good thing, don't get me wrong, but there is a time and a place.
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What if you spent 900 hours making something for someone only for them to say they hated it? Would you feel respected by their honesty? Or would you keep your distance from then on?
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3 3points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Being thankful is whole other thing, and the way this blanket situation was handeled is wrong. With my posts I was talking only about giving the gift back.
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So for example, if I was given such a blanket I'd say something along lines "Thank you for your time and effort, that's wonderful. However I have sensory issues with velvet, and I will never be able to use it. Please keep it and give it to somebody that can enjoy this beautiful piece of craft, and I will keep forever in my heart what you did specially for me".
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Being honest doesn't equal being rude. Also, I don't want to be in a situation, when after couple years that person asks me about that blanket and I need to quickly come up with something.
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Because I don't see myself saying "Oh, that blanket? I gave it away". Just to hear "Why?" 2 2points reply Kendra Flores Kendra Flores Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago Absolutely so true!
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Furthermore the person that said it was ugly! Wow your behavior is disgusting & you should be more than ashamed of yourself!!! It was actually a very beautiful blanket, with neutral colors that would go with any style of home decor..
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Didn't stop him from taking the cash. And to me that makes the situation even worse. His mother should be ashamed of herself!!
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3 3points reply Dorian Dorian Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 days ago I agree with how it was returned. That was rude as heck. It was wrong.
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But I also believe the gift giver was out touch. I mean let's keep it real, gotta read the room. He's 21, wtf is a 21 yr old guy gonna want with a crochet blanket?
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Seriously? Get outta hea! Get that friggin guy a gift card, young guys love to eat a lot should've picked up a food gift card.
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Jus sayn gotta read the room...I have two son's , and they wouldn't want this crochet blanket either. They wouldn't say anything rude, just probably toss it. 21 yrs, Chipotle card, gas card, Xbox game card, etc.
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0 0points reply Ms A Ms A Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 days ago My two oldest (19 and 21) would LOVE something like this! 1 1point reply Jason Melvil Jason Melvil Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
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Sorry Andy, but I'm calling BS on you here. What you are describing here is the act of a total selfish person who thinks too much of themselves, force something nobody asked for on another person - force said other person to pretend to be happy about it.
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Force other person to store it away - for no reason other than the gift giver's own selfishness?!? WHY?
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How is any of this garbage doing something nice to another person? This also has nothing to do with her spending time on this gift. It's a problem with all gifts.
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Bought or made. Why on earth does the person getting a "gift" has to go through all this c**p? And that is assuming the gift giver isn't like most people - who will constantly ask "well, have you tried that out?
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Did you really like it? Can I see you wear it?" and what not. The gift giver is a total AH.
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-16 -16points reply Vira Vira Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) I get the impression you have never made anything for another person. You aren't crafty. You don't cook.
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You don't give gifts (with love). Perhaps you're the type of person who buys junk, made with slave labor, at a store, to gift. Perhaps you're the type to gift cash, or a thoughtless gift-card.
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Regardless, you clearly don't know what it means when people say, "It's the thought that counts." The time, and love, and work, that goes in to hand-made gifts, really should mean something to you. If not, perhaps you're a bit of an malignant narcissist; lacking empathy, and respect.
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12 12points reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Or he had to wear ugly self made sweaters lol. I got laughed at in school, but I wore em with pride in the 80s, cause my mom knitted them.
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10 10points reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I knitted a sweater for my sister's first baby. It was a horrible unpractical thing, but she said: oh how nice!
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Thank you! And put it on and made a pic. And never put it on again and years later told me it was a horrible unpractical thing LOL.
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11 11points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Exactly. Because she has manners and respect.
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Didn't need to hurt you or use it beyond showing you she tried and did appreciate the effort. 10 10points reply Evelyn Witt Evelyn Witt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This is kinda what I am talking about. 0 0points reply MiriPanda MiriPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I fully understand the hurt and personally would have kept it in a heartbeat, but am I the only one to find a crocheted blanket a little strange gift for a 21 year old young man?
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? (I don't return gifts unless it's a size or duplicate issue as those can easily be fixed and don't hurt anybodys feelings). 55 55points reply Nathan Wolfe Nathan Wolfe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago In winter, a crocheted blanket is a perfect supplement to any blanket.
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Adds weight, holds heat, but is breathable. I'm 29 and if someone gifted me a hand crocheted blanket, I'd likely break down and ball my eyes out.
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I haven't had one since my dog shredded the last one my great grandma made me before she passed. 56 56points reply Load More Replies... Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I have to softly disagree with you.
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Fwiw, my SIL made me a blanket when I was 34 and I am so not the girliest girl out there. I was touched that she made it for me.
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I know it may be different since I'm a woman, but I think that no matter one's age or gender, a gift like this should always be shown appreciation and thanks. This woman showed love in the best way she knew how and this guy was simply too spoiled to see that. 21 is old enough to recognize the effort and he failed miserably.
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22 22points reply Candice Cook Candice Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I don't think it's weird. It's useful.
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I mean when I was that age and living on my own, I didn't have much to speak of in the way of blankets and other things that I had access to readily when I lived at home. I would've been thrilled to have something I didn't have to pay for and I know my brothers were the same.
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I have plenty of ugly blankets that I was gifted over the years. I don't display them in my home, but I definitely am glad to have them when I need them.
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16 16points reply Vira Vira Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm confused. Do young men not feel cold, or enjoy comfort?
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What does 21, or bring a guy, have to do with a blanket? 16 16points reply L.V L.V Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yeah I see what you mean.
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I love to make knitted gifts for babies or toddlers. But as they get older, ask what they want, so I know my gifts will be appreciated. 12 12points reply Howaboutno Howaboutno Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I think I get why it feels weird (usually when I hear about handmade blankets, I think of baby blankets), but it's a practical use gift, which is typically a good choice for an adult 5 5points reply Beks Czar Beks Czar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago No, you aren't.
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A blanket for a 21st birthday is an incredibly odd gift to give on the "I can finally drink" birthday, unless you knew he personally wanted a homemade blanket. Like I had a friend who made me a blanket for my 21st.
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It was a quilt of black and white squares with cut out circles and 8's to make (pool cue) 8-balls because I collect 8-ball memorabilia. It was the coolest.
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I don't use it as a blanket, it is in a tote but that's to keep it safe because it was one of the best birthday gifts I've ever received. But!!!
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900 HOURS!!! Why. Just why.
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---- That said, both the guy and his mother are complete assholes. And he's learning it from his shitty mother.
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Tough s**t that you don't like it. You thank them or send a thank you note and then put it in your closet.
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2 2points reply Selene doe Selene doe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Idk, most men I know love anything someone makes for them, even if it's ugly, because guys never get genuine handmade gifts, and it makes them so happy. Actually have had several male friends tear up when I gifted them something because they just aren't used to it.
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But it's important to always ask what someone wants first. 0 0points reply CatWoman312 CatWoman312 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes I find it weird too especially since it appears she didn’t ask if he wanted one. 0 0points reply rumade rumade Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment is hidden.
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Click here to view. Looking at the design too, she was nuts to crochet this.
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It's just rectangles, a quilter could knock it out in a day. -25 -25points reply s0nicfreak s0nicfreak Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago As someone that does both...
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Quilting is manipulating fabric/making something out of fabric, crocheting is making fabric. A quilter can only knock it out in a day because someone/something else (usually a machine) has already made the fabric. And there is no machine crocheting so a quilter can't make a crochet blanket.
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They can make a striped blanket, sure, but the stitches will never look the same. 27 27points reply Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Sooo, you're saying her skills aren't worthy of making a gift?
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Please, PLEASE elaborate on what you mean. 24 24points reply Deborah B Deborah B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I craft. It's expensive and time consuming, and I do it for me.
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Other people are not obligated to like it, or want it. Putting 900 hours into a blanket and expecting someone else to value it as highly as you do is setting yourself up for disappointment.
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If you are going to do a gift for someone, FFS ask what they would like. Saying "I would love to crochet a blanket for your son, do you think he would like that? Is there something else he'd like better?" Would have been polite and sensible.
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He's 21 - it's more likely than not that this blanket is not to his taste, and he may even be uncomfortable that a woman his mom's age is giving him handcrafts that she spent 900 hours on. 50 50points reply Joseph Miller Joseph Miller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago He should have just been a man and return it himself.
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He softer than that blanket he had his mommy return. 6 6points reply Load More Replies...
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Karen Buffington Karen Buffington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago This is simple. Another disgusting example of feeling entitled. Granted, the receiver may not like it, but should show appreciation for your thoughtfulness & personalization of the gift.
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And his mom, she is no friend to have the audacity to return it to you in the first place. They are two peas in a pod. More importantly, you made an amazing choice in giving it to someone who definitely appreciated it & will never forget you for doing it.
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Gifts from the heart are what it should all be about. 4 4points reply Beks Czar Beks Czar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago Bazinga 0 0points reply Juliet Murphy Juliet Murphy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 days ago Whatever happened to gratitude and respect? A modicum of class?
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Graciousness? She didn't have to think of him at all.
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Designer Gifts wouldn't ever get another gift from me. His mother wouldn't be counted among my friends anymore, either.
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1 1point reply Load More Comments POST Andy Andy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Was going to comment on the friend, however then got to the comments (in the story) and more shocked by the basic lack of manners and spoiled attitude of a lot of these people. By all means you do not have to like a gift, but you smile, say thank you and then stick it in a drawer or cupboard until you have a clear out.
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To say that she was trying to manipulate people or that they were right to rudely reject it to make a point that she was wrong to give them that gift just come accross as awful, entitled people who have no regard for other people's feelings 93 93points reply susan turer susan turer Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Exactly, the blanket was not the only gift she gave him. So if he didn't like it just say thank you for gifts and give the one you do not like away. There is no reason to return a gift you do not like, just pass it on to a charity or something.
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My issue with many of the responses is that manners and kindness should not be forgotten and all right to give up on if you did not ask for or want something. It takes so little time to show and say thank you (especially to a friend or family member), then you are free to do as you will with the gifts.
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22 22points reply Load More Replies... Margaret Beier Margaret Beier Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 days ago The $120 was the cost of yarn, etc. , not a gift.
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-2 -2points reply Tayzia Covet Tayzia Covet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 days ago But she stared that she gave him $121 cash in addition to the blanket 3 3points reply Jeannette Peterson Jeannette Peterson Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I was taught growing up that a thing made by hand was more meaningful than buying something from the store. I also crochet and don't as a rule ask someone if they want a blanket or scarf or whatever other craft I make.
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I try to make something special and I believe that is all this woman was trying to do too. I made a crochet quilt for my parents with a big white square in the middle and two antique crocheted cars (a model T and a stage coach) which was going to be put in a frame with velvet behind it so everyone could see it.
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That never happened. They wouldn't use the blanket cuz they had dogs and didn't want hair to get into the yarn. It was put in a closet and forgot about.
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My sister makes blankets she has the sewing machine make pictures. I just went to see my parents before my dad passed away.
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My mother brought out all the blankets my sister made. I asked to see the crochet blanket that cost me over $200 to make and send.
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That hurt. My mom says I never make anything for her. Whatev 14 14points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Exactly.
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I blame parents these days for being lazy pieces of s**t who stick their kids on computers and phones instead of teaching them manners and respect. 13 13points reply CatWoman312 CatWoman312 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I see what you’re saying and I do find the comment about it not being designer very rude, but the question I have is did he even want a blanket? I feel there needs to be more context because just deciding to make someone a blanket isn’t a good idea unless they specifically ask for one .
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10 10points reply Ari Keeper Ari Keeper Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago But who can't use a nice warm blanket? It's not like it was some weird niche thing, like a painted Warhammer figurine 20 20points reply Vicki Carlisle Vicki Carlisle Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago It's a gift!
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You don't get to choose your gifts, unless you keep a running registry. Good grief.....manners are sure in short supply these days.
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Neither he nor his mother seemed to care about how their actions and words would affect this person, who cared enough to make this blanket for him. A simple "thank you" would have been enough and store it away, give it away or whatever; just don't hurt someone.....wow! 3 3points reply Lee Sanyos Lee Sanyos Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago Hey Catwoman312, I too had some concerns and questions.
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I used to crochet and made blankets for people who wanted them. People who think that everyone can use a blanket, is just foolish.
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I don't need one in FL, did not need one in Denver or AZ when we lived there. Also, 900 hrs is like 6 months; so was the blanket the size of a house? Something is a bit hinckey.
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While the mother could have taken it, the woman at some point would have followed up on how he liked it, where is it, etc. Now, we have her continuing a lie; not a good situation. Maybe, she could have asked what would have been a good gift and one within her budget.
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0 0points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago If I feel that somebody's gift is wasted on me, I would give it back out of respect. I won't put somebody's effort/money in a cuboard to get rid off later, that's wastefull 5 5points reply Squirrelly Panda Squirrelly Panda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Wasteful if you throw it away.
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And hurtful if you return it. So thank the giver for thinking of you and how thoughtful they were for putting such effort in, then, some point in the future, give it to someone who will really appreciate it, in the case of the blanket, a homeless or women's shelter if no where else.
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23 23points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I never said anything about throwing away, but getting rid off. And passing item of high value to a homeless person because it's no use to you? I would be so much more hurt if somebody would give away something that I worked on for 900h to anybody.
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3 3points reply love u love u Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago the homeless would eagerly accept that gift, theyre humans and have feelings also. 10 10points reply DD62422 DD62422 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago And most homeless would leave an afghan blanket behind when they move on before it's bulky and difficult to carry.
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2 2points reply Kat Min Kat Min Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Noone says you have to throw it away. You can give it to someone who wants it. Don't give back presents (unless you now the person inside out and knwo they won't mind) It's incredibly rude.
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14 14points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I do prefer honesty and trust. Besides, if I give something that reciver won't like, and they return it to me, I can get a refund. Also important information what that person likes and dislikes.
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Communication is the key for me. And I consider lies much more rude, than a bit of awkwardness -1 -1point reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes me too.
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Wouldn't mind. The other guy is so happy with it. Why give it to someone who doesn't care about it?
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3 3points reply Gail Steltenpohl Gail Steltenpohl Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago How about appreciating the makers efforts, then keep In cupboard . You can donate later to the homeless, fire victims, vets.
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Or Disabled. Giving a gift back isn’t respect 7 7points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Maybe.
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But honesty is. 0 0points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago You're an a*****e ezPZ.
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2 2points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Please, could you elaborate? 2 2points reply Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm just going to put this scenario out there: let's say you're an atheist, you sneeze, someone says "bless you." Do you get offended?
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If so, do you tell the person or do you just swallow it and accept the gesture as a token of well-meaning care and concern? Or, do you use honesty as a way to be a thinly veiled a*****e?
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Being honest is a good thing, don't get me wrong, but there is a time and a place. What if you spent 900 hours making something for someone only for them to say they hated it? Would you feel respected by their honesty?
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Or would you keep your distance from then on? 3 3points reply ezPZ ezPZ Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) Being thankful is whole other thing, and the way this blanket situation was handeled is wrong.
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With my posts I was talking only about giving the gift back. So for example, if I was given such a blanket I'd say something along lines "Thank you for your time and effort, that's wonderful. However I have sensory issues with velvet, and I will never be able to use it.
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Please keep it and give it to somebody that can enjoy this beautiful piece of craft, and I will keep forever in my heart what you did specially for me". Being honest doesn't equal being rude.
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Also, I don't want to be in a situation, when after couple years that person asks me about that blanket and I need to quickly come up with something. Because I don't see myself saying "Oh, that blanket?
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I gave it away". Just to hear "Why?" 2 2points reply Kendra Flores Kendra Flores Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago Absolutely so true! Furthermore the person that said it was ugly!
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Wow your behavior is disgusting & you should be more than ashamed of yourself!!! It was actually a very beautiful blanket, with neutral colors that would go with any style of home decor.. Didn't stop him from taking the cash.
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And to me that makes the situation even worse. His mother should be ashamed of herself!! Ppl these days feel so entitled..
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it's a shame!! 3 3points reply Dorian Dorian Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 4 days ago I agree with how it was returned. That was rude as heck.
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It was wrong. But I also believe the gift giver was out touch.
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I mean let's keep it real, gotta read the room. He's 21, wtf is a 21 yr old guy gonna want with a crochet blanket? Seriously?
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Get outta hea! Get that friggin guy a gift card, young guys love to eat a lot should've picked up a food gift card. Jus sayn gotta read the room...I have two son's , and they wouldn't want this crochet blanket either.
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They wouldn't say anything rude, just probably toss it. 21 yrs, Chipotle card, gas card, Xbox game card, etc.
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0 0points reply Ms A Ms A Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 days ago My two oldest (19 and 21) would LOVE something like this! 1 1point reply Jason Melvil Jason Melvil Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
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Sorry Andy, but I'm calling BS on you here. What you are describing here is the act of a total selfish person who thinks too much of themselves, force something nobody asked for on another person - force said other person to pretend to be happy about it.
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Force other person to store it away - for no reason other than the gift giver's own selfishness?!? WHY?
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How is any of this garbage doing something nice to another person? This also has nothing to do with her spending time on this gift. It's a problem with all gifts.
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Bought or made. Why on earth does the person getting a "gift" has to go through all this c**p?
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And that is assuming the gift giver isn't like most people - who will constantly ask "well, have you tried that out? Did you really like it? Can I see you wear it?" and what not.
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The gift giver is a total AH. -16 -16points reply Vira Vira Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago (edited) I get the impression you have never made anything for another person. You aren't crafty.
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You don't cook. You don't give gifts (with love). Perhaps you're the type of person who buys junk, made with slave labor, at a store, to gift.
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Perhaps you're the type to gift cash, or a thoughtless gift-card. Regardless, you clearly don't know what it means when people say, "It's the thought that counts." The time, and love, and work, that goes in to hand-made gifts, really should mean something to you.
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If not, perhaps you're a bit of an malignant narcissist; lacking empathy, and respect. 12 12points reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Or he had to wear ugly self made sweaters lol. I got laughed at in school, but I wore em with pride in the 80s, cause my mom knitted them.
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10 10points reply bob van wijk bob van wijk Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I knitted a sweater for my sister's first baby. It was a horrible unpractical thing, but she said: oh how nice!
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Thank you! And put it on and made a pic.
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And never put it on again and years later told me it was a horrible unpractical thing LOL. 11 11points reply 2picklesinabun 2picklesinabun Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Exactly.
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Because she has manners and respect. Didn't need to hurt you or use it beyond showing you she tried and did appreciate the effort. 10 10points reply Evelyn Witt Evelyn Witt Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This is kinda what I am talking about.
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0 0points reply MiriPanda MiriPanda Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I fully understand the hurt and personally would have kept it in a heartbeat, but am I the only one to find a crocheted blanket a little strange gift for a 21 year old young man? ? (I don't return gifts unless it's a size or duplicate issue as those can easily be fixed and don't hurt anybodys feelings).
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55 55points reply Nathan Wolfe Nathan Wolfe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago In winter, a crocheted blanket is a perfect supplement to any blanket. Adds weight, holds heat, but is breathable. I'm 29 and if someone gifted me a hand crocheted blanket, I'd likely break down and ball my eyes out.
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I haven't had one since my dog shredded the last one my great grandma made me before she passed. 56 56points reply Load More Replies... Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I have to softly disagree with you.
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Fwiw, my SIL made me a blanket when I was 34 and I am so not the girliest girl out there. I was touched that she made it for me. I know it may be different since I'm a woman, but I think that no matter one's age or gender, a gift like this should always be shown appreciation and thanks.
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This woman showed love in the best way she knew how and this guy was simply too spoiled to see that. 21 is old enough to recognize the effort and he failed miserably. 22 22points reply Candice Cook Candice Cook Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I don't think it's weird.
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It's useful. I mean when I was that age and living on my own, I didn't have much to speak of in the way of blankets and other things that I had access to readily when I lived at home. I would've been thrilled to have something I didn't have to pay for and I know my brothers were the same.
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I have plenty of ugly blankets that I was gifted over the years. I don't display them in my home, but I definitely am glad to have them when I need them.
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16 16points reply Vira Vira Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I'm confused. Do young men not feel cold, or enjoy comfort?
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What does 21, or bring a guy, have to do with a blanket? 16 16points reply L.V L.V Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yeah I see what you mean. I love to make knitted gifts for babies or toddlers.
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But as they get older, ask what they want, so I know my gifts will be appreciated. 12 12points reply Howaboutno Howaboutno Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I think I get why it feels weird (usually when I hear about handmade blankets, I think of baby blankets), but it's a practical use gift, which is typically a good choice for an adult 5 5points reply Beks Czar Beks Czar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago No, you aren't. A blanket for a 21st birthday is an incredibly odd gift to give on the "I can finally drink" birthday, unless you knew he personally wanted a homemade blanket.
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Like I had a friend who made me a blanket for my 21st. It was a quilt of black and white squares with cut out circles and 8's to make (pool cue) 8-balls because I collect 8-ball memorabilia. It was the coolest.
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I don't use it as a blanket, it is in a tote but that's to keep it safe because it was one of the best birthday gifts I've ever received. But!!! 900 HOURS!!!
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---- That said, both the guy and his mother are complete assholes. And he's learning it from his shitty mother.
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Tough s**t that you don't like it. You thank them or send a thank you note and then put it in your closet.
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2 2points reply Selene doe Selene doe Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Idk, most men I know love anything someone makes for them, even if it's ugly, because guys never get genuine handmade gifts, and it makes them so happy. Actually have had several male friends tear up when I gifted them something because they just aren't used to it. But it's important to always ask what someone wants first.
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0 0points reply CatWoman312 CatWoman312 Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Yes I find it weird too especially since it appears she didn’t ask if he wanted one. 0 0points reply rumade rumade Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago This comment is hidden.
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Click here to view. Looking at the design too, she was nuts to crochet this.
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It's just rectangles, a quilter could knock it out in a day. -25 -25points reply s0nicfreak s0nicfreak Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago As someone that does both...
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Quilting is manipulating fabric/making something out of fabric, crocheting is making fabric. A quilter can only knock it out in a day because someone/something else (usually a machine) has already made the fabric.
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And there is no machine crocheting so a quilter can't make a crochet blanket. They can make a striped blanket, sure, but the stitches will never look the same.
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27 27points reply Lisa H Lisa H Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago Sooo, you're saying her skills aren't worthy of making a gift? Please, PLEASE elaborate on what you mean.
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24 24points reply Deborah B Deborah B Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 week ago I craft. It's expensive and time consuming, and I do it for me. Other people are not obligated to like it, or want it.
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Putting 900 hours into a blanket and expecting someone else to value it as highly as you do is setting yourself up for disappointment. If you are going to do a gift for someone, FFS ask what they would like. Saying "I would love to crochet a blanket for your son, do you think he would like that?
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Is there something else he'd like better?" Would have been polite and sensible. He's 21 - it's more likely than not that this blanket is not to his taste, and he may even be uncomfortable that a woman his mom's age is giving him handcrafts that she spent 900 hours on. 50 50points reply Joseph Miller Joseph Miller Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 6 days ago He should have just been a man and return it himself.
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Karen Buffington Karen Buffington Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago This is simple. Another disgusting example of feeling entitled. Granted, the receiver may not like it, but should show appreciation for your thoughtfulness & personalization of the gift.
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And his mom, she is no friend to have the audacity to return it to you in the first place. They are two peas in a pod. More importantly, you made an amazing choice in giving it to someone who definitely appreciated it & will never forget you for doing it.
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Gifts from the heart are what it should all be about. 4 4points reply Beks Czar Beks Czar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 5 days ago Bazinga 0 0points reply Juliet Murphy Juliet Murphy Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 3 days ago Whatever happened to gratitude and respect?
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A modicum of class? Graciousness?
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She didn't have to think of him at all. Obviously, I was raised differently.
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Mr. Designer Gifts wouldn't ever get another gift from me. His mother wouldn't be counted among my friends anymore, either.
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