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Catholic Woman Doesn’ t Want Her Sister To Bring Her Girlfriend To Her Wedding Starts A Family Conflict

Jonas Grinevičius and
Mindaugas Balčiauskas
You should be allowed to be your authentic self and your family members should support you no matter what. At least that's the idea.

Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect world. Redditor ThrowawayNZ2000, who is bisexual, shared how she refused to attend her sister's wedding because her family didn't want her bringing her girlfriend to the ceremony.

The couple has been dating for a year now, but her family thought that the wedding wasn't the place to "make a statement." The bride's family is catholic, as is the groom's. And while the bride's family all know about the redditor having a gf, they're less than enthused and don't want to have to explain things to the groom and his family members. So ThrowawayNZ2000 was forced to pick between her partner and her family, a choice that nobody should have to make.

Alas! Have a read through the full story below and scroll down for Bored Panda's interview with a pair of wedding experts who explained what to do when you and your guests' world views don't align.

A woman shared how she was forced to choose between her partner and her religious family when it came to her sister s wedding in Hawaii

Image credits: Unsplash (not the actual photo) Image credits: ThrowawayNZ2000 According to redditor ThrowawayNZ2000, her family members weren't willing to compromise. So she decided to stand up for her partner because she realized that she would deeply regret not doing so lately. Though, to be fair, she also pointed out that she was very sad that she couldn't take part in her sister's wedding either.

Family drama ensued after she made her final decision and her sister ended up being very upset that she wouldn't have a bridesmaid at her intimate, family-only Hawaii wedding. Meanwhile, Bored Panda spoke to Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society about similar situations.

They explained that couples should be aware that they'll never create the 'perfect' guestlist and should be more diplomatic and lenient if not everyone sees the world as they do. The most important part is celebrating love with the people you care about (and the people that they care about), not fighting over who's right and wrong.

"You're never going to know everything about everyone you invite and you're never going to have all your values align 100% with everyone you care about," Anna and Sarah told Bored panda. "Unless it's a massive dealbreaker, try to remember that it's just one day of your life, and having someone there who you don't even really have to engage with is sometimes the kinder action than alienating someone for having a different view to yours," they suggested that kindness and diplomacy tend to be better in the long run than alienation and drama.

And sometimes… it's best to set aside your own views and desire to be in the right for the sake of a smooth wedding with a variety of guests. We're all human, after all.

Reddit overwhelmingly declared that the woman was right to refuse to attend the wedding Here s what some of them said

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After getting his bachelor's degree in Politics and International Relations at the University of Manchester, he returned home and graduated from Vilnius University with a master's degree in Comparative Politics. Jonas enjoys writing articles ranging from serious topics like politics and social issues to more lighthearted things like art, pop culture, and nature. In his spare time, Jonas writes books and short stories and likes to draw lighthearted illustrations.

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I'll gladly choose the companionship of my love over that of some entitled prejudiced bigots who made themselves obsolete in my world. 48 48points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

But the sister who is marrying DOES want her there -31 -31points reply Load More Replies... anarkzie anarkzie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago She wants the fake straight version of her there. 37 37points reply M the Lemur M the Lemur Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago She wants the version who hides herself in order to appeal to her In Laws.

19 19points reply J Charby J Charby Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If she LOVES her, she'd accept her 2 2points reply J Charby J Charby Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yeah, but not as who she is, which is demoralizing and wrong 1 1point reply N G N G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I don't get why plus one has to mean "person of the opposite gender who is romantically involved". When I got married, my mum's cousin had just recently gotten divorced, but didn't want to sit by herself, nor mess with our seating numbers, so asked if she could bring her best friend as a plus one. She's straight (and even if she wasn't it wouldn't have been an issue - there were at least 2 other LGBTQ+ couples in attendance) and just wanted someone there she knew she could talk to.

I went to another wedding where a guest's plus one was his elderly mother as he was her carer and thought it would be a nice day out for her (he, as far as I am aware, has never had a serious romantic partner of either gender - I do not know if this is by preference). Plus one literally means just that - the named invited guest Plus One other unnamed guest.

It should be nobody's business who the named guest chooses to bring. 37 37points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I've gone as a best friend's plus one to a destination wedding in Florida. We made a road trip out of it.

It was great 16 16points reply Load More Replies... Andrew Andrew Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My best friend took me to his sister's wedding.

He thought it would be stupid to find some random date. And I knew the family well. It was well received by everyone and wasn't weird at all.

3 3points reply LuckyL LuckyL Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) If I went to a wedding where I would have to pretend that my partner is just a friend, I wouldn't go. If they want me to be there but not be myself, what's the point?

8 8points reply Marcellus the Third Marcellus the Third Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So you're suggesting she should bring her partner but act as if they're straight best friends? That's... not really an improvement.

0 0points reply N G N G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Not at all. I'm just pointing out that this obsession that a Plus One exclusively means a romantic partner leads to all kinds of idiotic behaviour. Should she have picked a friend instead of her girlfriend, would she have been given the same level of grief?

The wedding party (particularly the groom's side) seem to be applying arbitrary rules that are just stupid and bigoted in all kinds of petty ways. As long as she isn't a) dressed nicer than the bride and b) engaging in excessive PDA with whatever gender partner she chooses to bring, it really shouldn't matter, because all eyes are *supposed* to be on the bride and groom.

6 6points reply KombatBunni KombatBunni Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You’re a couple, should be treated like a couple. Sounds like your family are the a-holes, not you. Families who can’t accept LGBQTI couples should get their heads out of the sand ?

19 19points reply Otter Otter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Honestly, she can't tell her future in-laws that she has a bi sister by next spring? That's the big problem, the fact that the bride apparently intends to lie about her sister to in her in-laws indefinitely.

11 11points reply Load More Replies... arponet arponet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago No, she is a person and is treated like ONE person, not as half of a couple.

-3 -3points reply Load More Comments POST WilvanderHeijden WilvanderHeijden Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago Life is simple: If the person that I love is not welcome than I'm not welcome. I have no desire to be with people who really don't want me there. I'll gladly choose the companionship of my love over that of some entitled prejudiced bigots who made themselves obsolete in my world.

48 48points reply Vicky Zar Vicky Zar Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago This comment is hidden. Click here to view. But the sister who is marrying DOES want her there -31 -31points reply Load More Replies...

anarkzie anarkzie Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago She wants the fake straight version of her there. 37 37points reply M the Lemur M the Lemur Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago She wants the version who hides herself in order to appeal to her In Laws. 19 19points reply J Charby J Charby Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago If she LOVES her, she'd accept her 2 2points reply J Charby J Charby Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Yeah, but not as who she is, which is demoralizing and wrong 1 1point reply N G N G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago I don't get why plus one has to mean "person of the opposite gender who is romantically involved".

When I got married, my mum's cousin had just recently gotten divorced, but didn't want to sit by herself, nor mess with our seating numbers, so asked if she could bring her best friend as a plus one. She's straight (and even if she wasn't it wouldn't have been an issue - there were at least 2 other LGBTQ+ couples in attendance) and just wanted someone there she knew she could talk to.

I went to another wedding where a guest's plus one was his elderly mother as he was her carer and thought it would be a nice day out for her (he, as far as I am aware, has never had a serious romantic partner of either gender - I do not know if this is by preference). Plus one literally means just that - the named invited guest Plus One other unnamed guest. It should be nobody's business who the named guest chooses to bring.

37 37points reply Samantha Lomb Samantha Lomb Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago I've gone as a best friend's plus one to a destination wedding in Florida. We made a road trip out of it. It was great 16 16points reply Load More Replies...

Andrew Andrew Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago My best friend took me to his sister's wedding. He thought it would be stupid to find some random date. And I knew the family well.

It was well received by everyone and wasn't weird at all. 3 3points reply LuckyL LuckyL Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago (edited) If I went to a wedding where I would have to pretend that my partner is just a friend, I wouldn't go. If they want me to be there but not be myself, what's the point?

8 8points reply Marcellus the Third Marcellus the Third Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago So you're suggesting she should bring her partner but act as if they're straight best friends? That's... not really an improvement.

0 0points reply N G N G Community Member • points posts comments upvotes 1 year ago (edited) Not at all. I'm just pointing out that this obsession that a Plus One exclusively means a romantic partner leads to all kinds of idiotic behaviour. Should she have picked a friend instead of her girlfriend, would she have been given the same level of grief?

The wedding party (particularly the groom's side) seem to be applying arbitrary rules that are just stupid and bigoted in all kinds of petty ways. As long as she isn't a) dressed nicer than the bride and b) engaging in excessive PDA with whatever gender partner she chooses to bring, it really shouldn't matter, because all eyes are *supposed* to be on the bride and groom. 6 6points reply KombatBunni KombatBunni Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago You’re a couple, should be treated like a couple.

Sounds like your family are the a-holes, not you. Families who can’t accept LGBQTI couples should get their heads out of the sand ? 19 19points reply Otter Otter Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago Honestly, she can't tell her future in-laws that she has a bi sister by next spring?

That's the big problem, the fact that the bride apparently intends to lie about her sister to in her in-laws indefinitely. 11 11points reply Load More Replies... arponet arponet Community Member • points posts comments upvotes FollowUnfollow 1 year ago No, she is a person and is treated like ONE person, not as half of a couple.

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